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篇一：英语美文欣赏
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Friends or 'Enemies?'
When
I
was
younger,
my
Dad
used
to
tell
me:
"Boys
don't
want
to
be
your
friend." He then left the rest to my imagination.
At the time, I didn't agree. I thought:
I can crack a good joke, I know how to shoot a hoop, and I'm a cheerful person (but not in
an annoying way). What kind of boy wouldn't want to be around that kind of girl?
Turns
out,
my
Dad
was
right.
Not
to
be
all
"Samantha
Brick"
about
it,
but
in
my
experience,
single,
heterosexual
men
aren't
actively
looking
for
an
exclusively
platonic
relationship
with
a
woman
they
find
sexually
attractive.
This
of
course
is
not
a
revolutionary
concept. In fact, it seems pretty natural to me.
Now, I will be the first to say that it is really and truly the most wonderful thing in the world if
the
attraction
is
mutual.
But
the
Powers
That
Be
seem
to
like
to
play
these
complicated
little
mating games with humans where the guy we want to re-enact scenes from 9? Weeks with sees
our attractiveness level as akin to that of a discarded dishcloth, and the most physical we could see
ourselves being with the guy who actually likes us is a game of ping pong over an especially long
table. All of which means that someone usually ends up getting rejected.
I'm sure I'm not alone when I say I have struggled with the scenario where I am not
interested
in
a
man
romantically,
but
I
want
to
keep
him
as
a
friend
because
he
is
funny
and
I
enjoy
his
company,
or
he
has
shown
himself
to
be
that
rare
specimen
known
as
"a
nice,
genuine person, " or he simply doesn't mention his therapist in every other sentence.
Rather than string him along and give him hope, I feel compelled to somehow communicate to
him
sooner
rather
than
later
that
we'll
just
be
staying
friends,
nothing
more.
Otherwise,
I
think I am being unfair to him. Why should he waste his romantic stamina on me when there are
loads of other single women out there who might fall instantly in love with him?
The thing is, it
can sometimes be tricky to reject a man and keep him as a friend. If the operation is not executed
carefully, you may end up creating a "menemy."
It
requires
a
certain
amount
of
skill
to
be able
to
turn
down
a
man's
sexual
advances
or
romantic
gestures
and
then
get
him
to
agree
to
meet
you
for
blueberry
pancakes
the
following
weekend and chat about the latest Woody Allen film. Some men aren't satisfied with just that.
I'm
not
clear
why.
What's
so
bad
about
friendship?
Everyone
needs
buddies.
But
I've seen men react poorly or simply fall off the face of the earth. I get it -- their feelings are
hurt.
None
of
us
likes
getting
rejected.
But
in
my
experience,
some
men
find
it
especially
soul-crushing.
I am only bringing all of this up because I recently had to go through this scenario again. I had
spent some time cultivating a friendship with a man who, in my defense, I thought was gay. So I
didn't see the harm in him buying me the occasional falafel, or accepting an invitation to see
a film with him. Isn't that what friends are for? But a mutual friend shed light on his sexual
orientation (straight) and suggested that his intentions -- and attentions -- weren't platonic.
He had never "made the moves" but now it was all crystal clear -- that explains the
way he had looked at me that time the tahini sauce dribbled down my chin!
Since he had clearly
been too timid to express his feelings, I thought I would be clever this time and subtly mention the
dates I had been going on, focusing on the one guy I was kind of keen on, so that he would know
that I was "unavailable" for heavy petting and those sorts of activities, but that I was
available for things like roller skating, falafel-eating and shooting the breeze. Doesn't that
sound nice? That way, he would known not to try to lean in for a kiss, and I wouldn't have to
pull the Stevie Wonder dance and dodge him went he went for it. It was like pre-rejection, yet I
was
sparing
his
feelings
because
he
didn't
even
have
to
put
himself
out
there!
I
really
thought I was being brilliant.
It
backfired,
of
course.
Said
man
ended
up
sending
me
an
rant
accusing
me
of
being
insensitive
by
talking
about
other
men
when
he
had
"feelings
for
me."
As
if
I
am
psychic, by the way, just because I am a woman! How was I supposed to know that? I think in his
mind
we
were
dating.
In
my
mind,
he
was
my
new
gay
BFF.
In
the
end,
I
got
mad
at
him
for
getting mad at me, and now the friendship has ended.
And I have created yet another "menemy."
Look, I have also tried the direct thing: "I really like you, but only as a friend, " but
you can only do that when the guy has made his intentions clear, and in my experience, they either
cope
okay
(though
rarely
do
I
feel
much
enthusiasm
for
friendship
after
that),
or
they
really
don't cope well. I also tried the thing where you make them think they are rejecting you, but
it gets quite confusing and only works if the guy isn't very sharp, and why would I -- or you
-- be hanging out with someone not that sharp in the first place?
As we all remember, Billy Crystal's character says men and women can't be friends
in
When
Harry
Met
Sally
because
the
sex
stuff
gets
in
the
way.
I
do
have
single,
male,
heterosexual friends with whom I have an easy, non-romantic rapport, but I honestly don't
know if they would walk away if I was sprawled naked on a bed calling out to them. I may not be
everybody's cup of tea, but sometimes, I wonder if they wonder. And they may wonder if I
wonder. If so, I hope they'll keep it to
themselves.
被拒后：朋友亦或敌人？
那时我并不以为然，认为凭自己的幽默诙谐，灌篮娴熟，开朗活泼的性格，又有那一个男
孩不喜 欢在这样的女孩身边呢？
但结果证明父亲是对的。
对此不需要太自恋
（
Samantha Brick
，
自由专栏女作家曾写过为什
么女人恨我等文章，有英版芙蓉姐姐之称）
，但 以我的经验来说，单身异性恋男士在他们认
为极具吸引力的女性身上并不想只是寻求一份简单的柏拉图式 的关系。
当然这一概念并没有
什么开创性，事实上在我看来再自然不过了。
首先我要说的是两情相悦的确是世界上最为美妙事。但上帝却好似很喜欢玩这种复杂的配
对游戏 ，
要么是通过九个半周的交往后，
我们想与之确定关系的男孩认为我们的吸引力指数
同 丢弃的抹布不相上下，
要么就是我们对中意我们的男孩不起化学反应，
两人总是像隔着一
长长的桌台打乒乓球一般。结果都是以另一方被拒而告终。
有些异性我虽然不想 和他交往，但很想和他做朋友，因为他幽默诙谐，有他陪在身边我会
很开心
,
或者他友 好善良并且为人真诚（这一类人可是稀缺性品种）
，或者是他不是每隔一句
便提起他的理疗师。 我敢说这种情形你也经历过吧。
我认为有必要对他说明白我们之间只会是朋友这种 关系这么简单，仅此而已。说这些话宜
早不宜晚，
而不是将他带在身边给他希望。
不然 对他来说是不公平的。
外面那么多单身女性，
她们或许会对他一见钟情，为什么要让他白白浪费 精力放在我身上呢？
但有时在拒绝一位男士后要想和他保持朋友关系，这种情况颇 为棘手。如果处理不当，结
果是你可能会结下梁子。
要想拒绝异性的追求或是一些暧昧举动，< br>同时还要让他同意下一周
他依然可以和你会面，
边品尝蓝莓煎饼边谈论伍迪艾伦执导的电 影，
这的确需要一定的技巧。
有些男士对此不以为意。
我不清楚他们的原因，
做朋友难道不好吗？每个人都有自己的朋友
呀。
但是我确实见到有些男性在被拒绝后反应很糟糕 ，
有的甚至好似在地球蒸发了一样再也
没见到他的面。我明白
--
他们受伤了 。没有人喜欢被别人拒绝。根据我的经验甚至有些男士
认为被拒让人精神崩溃。
提起这些是因为 最近我就遇到了这种情况。
前段时间我和位异性发
展着朋友关系，
我起初一直以为他是 同性恋。
所以他时不时给我买三明治，
或是邀请我去看
电影，
我都没觉得有什 么问题。
朋友不就是做这些吗？但朋友间是需要彼此都明白各人的性
取向的
（他是异性 恋）
还要暗示对方他的想法意图并不是柏拉图之类。
他从未做出暧昧举动，
但事实上， 他看我脸上有芝麻酱的眼神就已经说的很明白了。
他有些胆怯还没有袒露对我的感 情，所以我想这次我可以聪明些向他委婉的提下我最近一
直和某个男生在交往，
并对这个我颇为 动心的男生十分用心。
不用说他就明白恋人间得耳鬓
厮磨不属于我和他，
而类似滑冰， 吃吃三明治呀，
或闲聊呀我都没问题。我这样做是不是还
不错呀？这样他就明白不要试着前倾身 子去吻我，
我也不会用以要学史蒂威·
旺达舞蹈为借
口来躲避他的不轨举动。在他未向 我表白前我就已然拒绝他了，我认为这招妙哉。
当然结果是事与愿违。此男再给我 发送的邮件中激昂痛骂我多么没有感情：明知道他对我
的情意却当着他的面谈论其他男生。
仅仅 因为我是女的，
好像我就是神经病一样。
我哪知道
这些呀？我认为在他心里我们就一直 在约会，
而在我心里却把他当做可以做一辈子的同性恋
朋友。最后，因为他对我生气，我也对他 动了气，友情也就戛然而止了。我又结下了一段梁
子。
你瞧，
我 也试过用较为直接的方式回绝男生，
“我真的很喜欢你，
但只是出于朋友间的喜欢
而已 。
”这招仅适用于当此男表明了他的感情时候。在我经验中，有些男生反应还可以（尽
管随后我 觉得他同我做朋友的热情度大打折扣）
，有些男生对此应对得不是太好。还有一招
我也用过，< br>就是让他们感觉是他们在拒绝你，
这招颇具有迷惑性且对象仅适用于头脑不是很
敏捷的男 生。但话又说回来，我怎么会和一个头脑不灵光的男生交往呢？
我们都会记得在当 哈利遇上莎莉这部电影中比利克里斯托扮演的角色曾说：男人和女人从
来不会是朋友，因为“男女有别”
。我的确有一些单身异性恋的男性朋友，我和他们之间也
处的轻松随意，
无关乎风月，
但我真的不知道要是我懒洋洋赤身裸体于床上，
大声唤着他们，
他们是否会决然走开呢 ？我或许不是每个人的菜，
但有时我想他们是否会考虑我是不是他们
喜欢的类型，
或许 他们也会想我会不会有同样的念头。
如果是这样的话，
希望他们缄口不提
保密于心吧。
Living With My Teenage Genius
AS HER son Cameron sits at his laptop completing an assignment for his maths degree course
Alison Thompson is busy helping her daughter Emma get dressed.
Nothing
unusual
there,
except
that
at
just
14
Cameron
is
a
highly
gifted
maths
prodigy,
while
Emma is 12 and severely autistic.
Having
two
children
with
such
contrasting
abilities
has
at
times
been
a
challenge,
admits
full-time mum Alison, 34, who also has 10-year-old daughter Bethany.
While
help
has
always
been
readily
available
for
Emma,
Alison
and
her
husband
Rod,
37,
a
computer programmer, have had to fight to get Cameron the support he needs.
“
People could see
that Emma has special needs but because Cameron was doing so well at school his teachers never
thought there was a problem. They refused to acknowledge that he was gifted,
”
says Alison.
Admittedly it took Alison and Rod a while to realise their son was different.
“
Cameron was our
first
child
and
we
didn
’
t
really
have
anything
to
compare
him
with.
He
always
had
a
very
impressive
vocabulary
and
we
knew
he
was
bright
but
he
didn
’
t
reach
his
milestones
exceptionally early and there were no other real signs.
”
It was only when he began primary school that his abilities became clear.
“
He used to cry when
it was time to come home,
”
recalls Alison.
“
He just always wanted to learn more.
”
On one occasion he even corrected the teacher when she told the class that zero was the lowest
number. Cameron told her she was wrong because there were negative numbers. He was four at
the time.
By the time he was seven, Cameron, who lives with his family in Wrexham, North Wales, was
leaps and bounds ahead of his classmates. It was also clear that he was suffering from Asperger
’
s
syndrome, which is a form of autism. Children with Asperger
’
s typically find social interaction
incredibly difficult and can become obsessive and inflexible.
“
Not only was he getting bored at school but he didn
’
t know when to keep quiet and had no
idea how to pick up on social cues,
”
says Alison, who along with Rod started to put pressure on
the school for extra support for their son.
Now 14 Cameron is at secondary school, studying for a distance learning maths degree with the
Open
University,
having
sailed
through
his
GCSE
at
11
and
his
A-level
at
12,
achieving
top
grades.
Today it is clear that this slightly built, engaging and awkward teenager is gifted but it has been a
battle to get the authorities to acknowledge his needs.
“
I don
’
t think the teachers had a clue what to do with a gifted child,
”
says Alison.
“
We were
worried about being labelled as pushy parents but there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting
the
best
for
your
child.
I
think
the
teachers
thought
we
were
trying
to
drive
Cameron
with
his
maths but the drive came from him.
”
Frustrated, the Thompsons considered home education
–
Cameron was also being targeted by
bullies
–
but they thought it would hamper their son socially.
By his final year of primary school, Cameron had become bored and disruptive but fortunately
when he moved to senior school teachers there took his talents seriously and he was encouraged to
do more advanced maths work.
“
He steamed through the GCSE syllabus in just three months,
”
says Alison.
“
For the first
time in ages he seemed really happy.
”
Then his parents had to decide what to do next. Some gifted children are sent to university early
but Alison and Rod felt this wasn
’
t right for Cameron.
“
What would he have in common with the
other students?
”
she asks.
“
I just don
’
t understand these parents who are so ambitious that they
lose all sight of their child.
“
I
was
once
contacted
by
a
mother
who
told
me
her
five-year-old
was
interested
in
taking
a
GCSE. I mean, really? What five-year-old has actually heard of a GCSE? When Cameron was five
all he wanted was to be a train driver.
”
Alison admits she is baffled by much of her son
’
s degree course. Even Rod, who has a maths
degree
himself,
struggles
to
keep
up.
Yet
they
are
careful
never
to
compare
Cameron
with
his
sisters.
Bethany is bright too but not gifted. Sociable and artistic she is the one who will remind absent