早，

结婚还早，

生孩子还早，

甚至死亡也早着呢。

像

a lex

和我这样

20

多岁的人，

什么都没有但时间多的是。

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but before long, my supervisor pushed me to push alex about her love life. i

pushed back. i said,

knucklehead, but it's not like she's going to marry the guy.

supervisor said,

work on alex's marriage is before she has one.

但不久之后，我的导师就要我向

alex

的感情生活施压。我 反驳说：

“当然她

现在正在和别人交往，

她现在和一个傻瓜男生睡觉，

但看样子她不会和他结婚的。

”

而我的导师说：

“不着急，她也许会 和下一个结婚。但修复

alex

婚姻的最好时期

是她还没拥有婚姻的时期。

”

that's what psychologists call an

realized, 30 is not the new 20. yes, people settle down later than they used to, but

that didn't make alex's 20s a developmental downtime.

这就是心理学家说的“顿悟时刻”

。 正是那个时候我意识到，

30

岁不是一个

新的

20

岁。的确，和以前的人相比，现在人们更晚才安定下 来，但是这不代表

alex

就能长期处于

20

多岁的状态。

that made alex's 20s a developmental sweet spot, and we were sitting

there blowing it. that was when i realized that this sort of benign neglect was a real

problem, and it had real consequences, not just for alex and her love life but for the

careers and the families and the futures of twentysomethings everywhere.

更晚安 定下来，应该使

alex

的

20

多岁成为发展的黄金时段，而我们却坐在

那里忽视这个发展的时机。< /p>

从那时起我意识到这种善意的忽视确实是个问题，

它

不仅给

alex

本身和她的感情生活带来不良后果， 而且影响到处

20

多岁的人的事

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业、家庭和未来。

there are 50 million twentysomethings in the united states right now.

we're talking about 15 percent of the population, or 100 percent if you consider

that no one's getting through adulthood without going through their 20s first.

现在在美国，

20

多岁的人有五千万，也就是

15%

的人口，或者可以说所有

人口，因为所有 成年人都要经历他们的

20

多岁。

raise your hand if you're in your 20s. i really want to see some

twentysomethings here. oh, yay! y'all's awesome. if you work with

twentysomethings, you love a twentysomething, you're losing sleep over

twentysomethings, i want to see

—

okay. awesome, twentysomethings really matter.

如果你现在

20

多岁，

请举手。

我很想看到有< /p>

20

多岁的人在这里。

哦，

很好。

如果你和

20

多岁的 人一起工作，你喜欢

20

多岁的人，你因为

20

多岁的人辗转

难眠，我想看到你们。很棒，看来

20

多岁的人确实很受重视。

so i specialize in twentysomethings because i believe that every single one of

those 50 million twentysomethings deserves to know what psychologists,

sociologists, neurologists and fertility specialists already know: that claiming your 20s

is one of the simplest, yet most transformative, things you can do for work, for love,

for your happiness, maybe even for the world.

因此我专门研究

< br>20

多岁的人，

因为我坚信这五千万的

< br>20

多岁的人，

每一个

人都应该 去了解那些心理学家、

社会学家、

神经学家和生育专家已经知道 的事实：

你的

20

多岁是极简单却极具 变化的时期之一。

你

20

多岁的时光决 定了你的事业、

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爱情、幸福甚至整个世界。

this is not my opinion. these are the facts. we know that 80 percent of

life's most defining moments take place by age 35. that means that eight out of

10 of the decisions and experiences and

is will have happened by your mid-30s.

这不是我的看法。这些是事实。我们知道

80%

决定你生活的时刻发生在

35

岁之前。这就意味着你生活的重要决定、经历和突然的领悟，有八成是在你

30

多岁之前发生的。

people who are over 40, don't panic. this crowd is going to be fine, i think.

we know that the first 10 years of a career has an exponential impact on how much

money you're going to earn. we know that more than half of americans are

married or are living with or dating their future partner by 30.

那些超 过

40

岁的朋友不要惊慌，我想这群人会没事的。我们知道职业 生涯

的前

XX

年对你将来的收入有重大 影响。

我们知道到了

30

岁的时候，< /p>

超过半数的

美国人会结婚或者和未来的另一半同居或者约会。

we know that the brain caps off its second and last growth spurt in your 20s as it

rewires itself for adulthood, which means that whatever it is you want to change

about yourself, now is the time to change it. we know that personality changes more

during your 20s than at any other time in life, and we know that female fertility

peaks at age 28, and things get tricky after age 35.

我们知道人在

20

多岁的时候大脑停止 第二次也是最后一次重组，以适应成

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年世界的快速发育阶段。

这就意味着 不管你想怎样改变自己，

现在就是时间改变

了。我们知道在

20

多岁的时候，性格的改变多于生命中任何时期。我们也知道

女性的最佳生育时期在

28

岁的时候达到顶 峰，

35

岁之后生育变得困难。

so your 20s are the time to educate yourself about your body and your options.

so when we think about child development, we all know that the first five years are a

critical period for language and attachment in the brain. it's a time when your

ordinary, day-to-day life has an inordinate impact on who you will become.

所以你的

20

多岁正是了解你自身和选择的时期。

当我们想到孩童的成长时，

我们都知道

1-5

岁是大脑学习语言和感知的重要时期。这个 时期，日常的普通生

活都会对你的未来道路影响巨大。

but what we hear less about is that there's such a thing as adult

development, and our 20s are that critical period of adult development. but this

isn't what twentysomethings are hearing. newspapers talk about the changing

timetable of adulthood.

但是我们却很少听到成年发展期，

而我们的

20

多岁正是成年发展期的关 键。

但是

20

多岁的人却听不到这些， 报纸讨论的只是成年年龄界线的变更。

researchers call the 20s an extended adolescence. journalists coin silly

nicknames for twentysomethings like

culture, we have trivialized what is actually the defining decade of adulthood.

研究者称

20

多岁是延长的青春期。< /p>

记者就引用傻傻的外号称呼

20

多岁的人 ，

比如“

twixters

”